Please look at the time stamp on the story to see when it was last updated. ATLANTA (July 27, 2015) – Two sisters at an Atlanta Braves baseball game Wednesday night say they exposed a cheating wife. “I was at the Detroit Lions game today when I noticed this woman who looked 8 months pregnant in a seat in front of me texting a man messages like “I wish I was with you all day” and “I will see you as soon as I’m done with him.” She kept hiding her phone every time her partner put his arm around her or reached in to talk to her.
ATLANTA — Two North Carolina sisters say they exposed a cheating wife to her husband at an Atlanta Braves baseball game Wednesday night. Delana and Brynn Hinson sat behind a couple at the game. Two women at an Atlanta Braves baseball claimed to have photographed a woman in the middle of texting another man while sitting next to her husband. The incident went viral after one of the women tweeted the photos she took of the woman sitting next to her husband while apparently sexting someone else. A woman who was apparently cheating on her husband was busted at a baseball game in Atlanta by a pair of eagle-eyed sisters sitting right behind her. 2 Delana and Brynn Hinson posted images on social media showing what appeared to be a woman sexting someone who is not her husband.
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Technology can be amazing at times, but it can also put you in some tricky situations, especially if you’re in a relationship. Which brings us to the all-important question that many people ponder: Is texting cheating? And let us clarify: We don’t mean sending off a text to a member of the sex (or sexes) you’re attracted to and asking how they’re doing. We mean full-on flirting—or more.
When social media and texting are added to your relationship equation, it's only natural to wonder where to draw the line. Technology has changed the game when it comes to love and relationships—we meet on dating sites and apps, we often communicate more frequently by text than calls, and we send Bitmojis back and forth as banter. Tech is a big part of our bonding experience with our S.O., which is why texting another person can be considered cheating. Friends, acquaintances, and even past lovers can create bumps in an otherwise smooth path when they compete for one partner's attention. So how can you tell if you're emotionally cheating? We asked the experts to weigh in.
Below, read on to see the three questions you should ask yourself when you're deciding how harmless those texts really are. (Just remember that there is a fine line between being faithful and unfaithful, and every situation is different).
Meet the Expert
Susan J. Elliott, JD, M.Ed., is a grief counselor, attorney, media commentator, and the author of the best-selling book series Getting Past Your Breakup.
Is This Behavior You'd Do in Front of Your Partner?
Elliott says that the most successful types of couples follow this rule: “If you wouldn’t do it in front of me, don’t do it.” It's pretty safe to say that if you or your partner are sending a text you don't want the other person to read, you likely shouldn’t be having this conversation in the first place. Still unsure if your texts are considered cheating? Try flipping the situation: If it were the other way around, consider how your partner's actions would affect your feelings. A text on your S.O.'s phone that would make you feel uncomfortable is presumably one that doesn't belong on yours. “[The rule] leaves no room for gray areas or arguments,” says says Susan J Elliott, JD, M.Ed, and author of Getting Back Out There. “It’s a simple and time-tested rule that works.”
Most successful types of couples follow this rule: 'If you wouldn’t do it in front of me, don’t do it.'
Are You Being Emotionally Unfaithful?
You know when a physical relationship is cheating because it’s obvious. But when it comes to being emotionally unfaithful, the boundaries can be harder to establish. Enter technology: When your interest in someone else is only a click away, it's important to think about your intentions. Does your relationship with the person on the other end of that text complicate your feelings for your partner? If so, it might be time to take a step back. 'Emotional infidelity often starts with when a relationship has lost its passion and is headed for the reef. The partners have settled into dull, auto-pilot interactions, have little or no sex, nag or criticize constantly, and rarely create enjoyable times when they are together,' says psychologist Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. 'Under these conditions, one of the partners may begin confiding to a colleague at work or a confidante online about relationship issues…Emotional cheating can then progress to a point where the friend who is listening or paying attention is idealized and fantasized about.'
'Your relationship should be a place where you find comfort and peace.'
If you’re not sure whether your text conversations are pushing your relationship into that gray area, Kirschner suggests asking yourself a few questions: Do you share more about yourself with your 'friend' than your partner? Do you ever complain about your relationship to your 'friend,' or feel that they understand you better than your partner does? You may be starting to develop an emotional bond with someone else that could put the bond with your partner in question. If so, treat this as an indicator that texting is turning into cheating. When you’re investing time and energy (and emotions) into someone who is not your S.O., you could be crossing the line.
“Your relationship should be a place where you find comfort and peace,” says Elliott. “Everyone has the right to go to sleep at night and not worry that their partner is in the next room playing virtual footsie with some internet hottie.” If your boundaries are feeling blurry, you're not alone. It all comes down to what you and your partner are comfortable with—and how you each define what you want from your relationship.
Is This Something You're Both Comfortable With?
We’ve already discussed the importance of setting boundaries in healthy relationships, and texting other people is no different. Every couple (and every individual who is a part of the couple) has different levels of comfort. “If you think that anything short of flesh to flesh sex is not cheating, that can be construed as a reasonable conclusion,” says Elliott. “If you think that even a small amount of flirtation through text is cheating, that is also a reasonable conclusion. Some readers may ask how both can be reasonable conclusions. The answer is that it’s what you can live with.” It’s important to have a chat early on with your S.O. to set some ground rules as to what is and isn’t acceptable in your relationship. You might find that you have very different definitions of cheating, or that only a few actions aren't viewed the same between you both. Regardless, if your partner feels uncomfortable about your relationships with other people, you could be setting yourself up for problems down the road. Kirschner suggests rekindling your bond with your partner and distancing yourself from the other person—just as you would in the case of physical infidelity.
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Most importantly: Remember what you want in a relationship, and express that in your actions toward your partner. While no boundaries are exact, it's up to each couple to define their own—so consider your intentions before sending that text.